Thursday, January 15, 2015

Big Ol' Life Changes Ahoy!

God, where to even begin!?

M got his dream job and is moving to Denver.  And I’m joining him!  He starts work on Monday and I’m following him in a couple of months, once I give notice and pay to break my lease, find new doctors, get records transfered, get rid of as much stuff as I can, sell/give away my car, figure out how to travel cross-country with cats...  The whole thing is insane and exciting and terrifying and amazing.  So fucking amazing!

I’m sad to leave my friends and I’m really not great at making new ones so that does make me a bit nervous.  But I will be closer to my west coast friends!  Moving to Alabama was the best decision I ever made so to pick up again and leave is making me nervous.  BUT.  Because moving cross country to live somewhere I’d never been, with someone I’d never met, did up being the exact right thing to do…that makes me less afraid because, hi, that could totally be the case again!  In fact, I know it will be.

We just got back from Colorado last night.  We found a place and signed a lease while we were there.  The complex has heated pools, hot tubs, a gym, trash “valet”, washer and dryer in each unit…  Since we’ll be combined on utilities, I’ll be paying the same for living expenses as I do now.  And he’ll be just a few minutes from work  I think we’re going to be so happy there.  The goal is to get as much of my stuff as possible into his trailer before he leaves this weekend, purge everything I can, mail more of my stuff once he’s settled, and then be able to fit me, him, the cats, and everything left into a rental car to take to Colorado in April. We can always rent a Uhaul, if need be, so I’m not stressing.

I’d never been to Colorado before so that was exciting!  It’s so beautiful there.  Cold as a motherfucker but beautiful.

I’m excited.  So so so excited.  This year is going to be incredible.









We were on the road for over a week and I took, like, six pictures.  I have no idea what the hell’s up with that.  In two months when I do the drive again, A MILLION PICTURES WILL BE TAKEN, DAMN IT!

Moments of Mention
* Meeting a bunch of his family.  They seem to like me!

* Losing my purse somewhere in Texas.  Including credit cards, driver’s license, and social security card.  Oh, and my camera.  This is going to be such a pain in the ass to try to replace my license and SS card while having neither one.

* Finally reading Charles Dickens.

* Accidentally staying in a motel used exclusively by sex workers while in St Louis.  “Well, I’m glad they have somewhere safe and clean to go!”

* Realizing that this is real.  Like, for real real.  Fuuuuuuuuuuuuck.

14 comments:

  1. Colorado is BEAUTIFUL. I'm so happy for the both of you!

    P.S. When you get settled, you and M should take a road trip to Royal Gorge near Canon City. It's magnificent.

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    1. Oh my gosh, I just looked up Royal Gorge and it's GORGEOUS!!!

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  2. I'm so excited for you, Heidi. You're so brave and open and adventurous. My goals for 2015. HUGS.

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    1. Aw, thank you, honey! It's absolutely terrifying but, fuck, I spent so many years being afraid that I'm trying super hard to embrace the adventure! We can do this!!!!

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  3. Hey! Colorado is awesome and I'm moving to the Front Range, about an hour north of Denver, so if you ever do any meet up type things, I can bring myself and some awesome geek girls that would love you. I'm katiesmurf @ gmail . com if you want to get in touch.

    PS- thank you for giving me the courage to take pictures of myself and actually show them to people. You are right, we are all beautiful

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    1. That makes me so happy!!!!! I emailed you future neighbor! <3

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  4. I hope this leads to more updates! WANT. MORE. HEIDI

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    1. I WILL BOMBARD YOU WITH SO MUCH HEIDI YOU WONT KNOW WHAT TO DO WITH YOURSELF! Also, I still have your xmas card on my fridge because it's fucking glorious. xoxox

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  5. Hey Heidi, I've read you since LJ (I was glassmarble there around 2008) and have said hello to you whenever I've seen you pop up on xoJane (I'm leitmotif there). I live in Boulder, so if you ever want to meet up, or even if it helps a little for you to know that someone you "know" is nearby, I'm here for you.

    -Lesley

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    1. I would love to meet up sometime!!! I'm not the best at making new friends so I'm super nervous about that but I'll try my best to not be antisocial, I promise!

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  6. I wish you all the best in your new adventure - you totally deserve it! Be sure to look after yourself and keep your own ducks in a row.
    Nosy question: How come you are selling your car?

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    1. Thank you so much!! Oh, always feel free to be nosy! My asshole former roommate rolled my car so now it has no side mirror and no back side window. Plus it has terrible tires and can't afford to replace any of it. I actually do want to take it but I worry it won't survive the drive. I'm taking it to the mechanic to have him check it over and see if it can make it. So we shall see.

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  7. Further nosiness: How old is it, and what's the mileage? Depending on the make/model, age, etc., it's easier to weigh the pros and cons to decide if it's worth trying to save or letting it go. I assume it's paid for? Do you have collision insurance that might pay for repairs, or is it cost prohibitive?

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    1. Hmm, I don't know if my reply went through. Let me try again! It's a 2005 Ford Focus, paid off, about 130,000 miles. No, no collision. I don't mind the cosmetic damage (though I'd def get the side mirror replaced before the trip) so I'm hoping the mechanic can suggest some affordable repairs that it'll get me there!

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